‘Life’s a journey; not a destination!’ Do you agree with that statement? Feel free to go ahead and ponder on it some more. It certainly is good ‘food for thought’ and should spark interesting and varying views. I strongly believe that at the end of every journey embarked upon, there is a resulting destination. In other words, we get to where we are by following a specific path. Destinations are not meant to be arrived at by accident. You and I are where we are right now hopefully by a conscious choice we made. We do not always choose wisely, so on our many journeys we need to pause and continually ask ourselves the following questions: “Do you know where you’re going? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to? Do you know?” These questions (which some will recognise as the lyrics from a yesteryear song), may be understandably difficult for us to accurately answer beforehand. For the purposes of this article, there’s a specific journey you DO NOT want to go on and if you’re on it, you need to abandon it immediately! It is called ‘The Guilt Trip!’ We can be on it and not even be aware of it, or, we can be trying to put others on it and sometimes unknowingly so. If we are to be in the places we are meant to be, neither are acceptable. It’s a trip that we can so easily embark upon which is most times started with an unconstructive thought which is followed by a resulting negative action. At that point the ‘warning bells’ normally begin going off in our minds by saying to us “Stop Now” or “Be careful... Here you go again,” but we both know that WE sometimes choose to ignore it. Subsequently, it can lead us down ‘the road of deep guilt’ which is a horrible destination that won’t disappear until we stop wilfully making ‘The Guilt Trip’ AND there’s a determined turn by us towards ‘the pathway of complete forgiveness.’
What is spiritually or morally wrong is wrong! It doesn’t matter if we try to make it right. Deep inside I know you’ll agree with me, that we could do without the uneasiness of ‘The Guilt Trip.’ If we persist on this needless journey, the result is more and more confusion and more and more hurt for us and many others we interact with. It may even escalate to the point where we feel like if we are ready to “trip off” but the truth is ‘The Guilt Trip’ is a trip way off from where we are supposed to be. Sooner or later we have to face it. Some journeys are senseless to embark upon. For example, would you set off to the grocery after you know it’s closed, or go to the bakery and ask for a carwash? When we choose the path of the ‘The Guilt Trip’ we inflict unnecessary pain on ourselves and others, which may keep us apart from others. Society can at times be so fragmented and we have to always honestly ask ourselves if WE are negatively contributing to it by our actions and mindless journeys. Here’s a proven and always timely God-given way out of ‘The Guilt Trip.’ It is found in one word: LOVE! The same energies we put into arriving at a destination of guilt can be put instead into genuinely loving others. Try it... you might like it! Yes, others may not always readily accept our unconditional love, but that doesn’t mean we have to stop giving it. Love is about giving, not receiving, so go ahead and give without caring what you’ll get in return and I guarantee you that the returns will far outweigh the heaviness of ‘The Guilt Trip.’ In other words, more time should be spent heading in a direction that brings genuine peace and love. Don’t wait on anyone. If you know that you need to say a heartfelt “Sorry,” please do so at the earliest opportunity. Having done that, you may actually get to go the grocery on time and find some wonderful stuff at the bakery which you can eat while you wait at the carwash! My friend, life is about the journey AND the resulting destination. From today, journey on with the happiness and the peace available to us all from God and if ever on your travels you see a sign that says ‘The Guilt Trip ahead,’ don’t go any further. Stop, look and listen for that still small voice within which will be saying loudly to you “Turn around NOW! Proceeding onward to guilt doesn’t make sense!” Let’s be willing to make the right choices we need to and be always mindful that ‘The Guilt Trip’ is an unnecessary journey that really leads to a dead-end!