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Honey......What's your password?

Monday, January 16, 2012


Have you ever heard those words from your girlfriend/boyfriend, the one you “trust”… the person who takes up the majority of your “world” or the person, who if missing, would cause you an untimely death? This might be a very fresh issue in modern relationships. I was trying to discuss this with my very good friend, but he seems to be on the wall about the whole thought of sharing one’s personal passwords in a relationship. Is it a sign of trust or mistrust? Well according to my friend it is not a matter of trust or mistrust, but a matter of preference. My preference however is privacy; I do not share my passwords with my girlfriend. She does not have the password to access my facebook account, bank account or anything else of the sort. I do not even have the password to the security lock on her phone. Of course, I do not have a problem not knowing these things and as cliché as it may sound, it’s because I trust her. I know of many loving couples who share these pieces of private information, and some individuals even do regular checks to make sure nothing looks too suspicious. I am sure that not everyone snoops, but within the cultural construct of Trinidad and Tobago, it is more or less embedded within the majority of the population. 
Another good friend of mine constantly deemed 2011 as the year of bad ending relationships. Looking at it now, the majority of our close friends who had significant others ended their ties horribly. According to my immediate knowledge the majority of couples who broke it off in 2011, shared their passwords for social networking sites. One relationship in particular ended because of a suspicious message online. Of course the suspicion transformed into hard core evidence, since it was published in plain blue and white graphics. Taking this from a different perspective, one could plainly state: What do you have to hide? In summary, if you have nothing to hide, then answering the question above should be done without any hesitation. Sharing passwords, for some, is also a sign of immediate trust and like my friend said, it’s a preference.  For those who are interested in answering, what is your preference? Would you share passwords with your girlfriend/boyfriend?  Yes or No?


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